A person uses his smartphone to post: “I’m at Such and Such Chinese restaurant right now. Someone help me decide. Should I use chopsticks or a fork?” He waits for comments and “like” as he waits for his plate of kung-pao chicken to cool off.
Such a scenario was discussed by Luke Burbank and his co-host Andrew Walsh on the podcast TBTL (Too Beautiful to Live).
A few weeks later on Larry Mantle's AirTalk I heard about this need to show off on social media sites. It’s called “peacocking,” wanting others to think that your life is more exciting than everyone else’s by posting all the “marvelous” things you’re doing on Facebook, twitter, etc.
You meet so many cool people and eat so many fabulous dishes because your life is better than everyone else's.
A lot of loneliness and insecurity seems to be brewing here.
I have a blog and my motivation to keep it going is the amount of hits it receives, which is modest, about 1,500 a day with occasional spikes.
It’s disturbing that these hits or people’s Facebook comments and “likes” become the new metric of self-worth, validation, self-esteem, etc.
I've had talks with people who post something on Facebook, no one comments, and they feel abandoned, rejected, irrelevant, embarrassed.
I fear this metric is rather false one and that it is replacing a much better metric of connection.
On the other hand, we are busy and many of us live far from one another, so the new way of connecting on the Internet has its benefits.
But someone slap me if I start peacocking.