Junpei and Kirie: A Study in the Constrictive Vs. the Expansive Personality Type

Junpei, the Constrictive:

 

1. He avoids change by focusing on an unattainable goal (“perfect” woman)
2. He takes the easy way out, living in his comfort zone but thinks he is a courageous artist. Thus he is a charlatan to himself.
3. He values his daily routine more than spontaneity and meeting new people.
4. He shrinks from intimacy while hiding behind his persona as the lonely,  misunderstood artist; thus his self-pity becomes a form of egotism.
5. He sees himself as a hopeless and helpless creature doomed to a life of futility and he uses this despair as an excuse to avoid higher aspirations. See page 236
6. He has fallen into the pattern of phony relationships with women in which he pretends to be interested in him but in fact he uses them as a drug. See page 236
7. His  life becomes more and more introverted; thus he lacks balance in his life;   he lacks, for example, street smart wisdom to inform his writing.
8. He is afraid of change and suffers the life of a coward.

 

 

Kirie, the Expansive:

 

1. For her, life is meaningless unless she takes risks.
2. She judges people based on her insights into their character, not the masks they wear. As a result, she is not easily impressed by people who have  high-status labels or have achieved positions of prominence.
3. Her lifestyle defies other people’s expectations because her impetuous tastes do not conform to the status quo or the herd.
4. She has an eclectic education and a “sharp mind.” See page 241
5. Her need to expand is accompanied by a striving for balance. See page 242 at the top.
6. She avoids commitment, not because of a fear of intimacy, like Junpei, but because she must surrender herself completely to everything she does. See page 243.
7. She is not as balanced as she likes to believe. Her need for expansive, new experience impedes her ability to find emotional balance in a committed relationship.
8. Her vibrant personality is a catalyst and a creative force, awakening the dormant dreams and creative energies of others; as a consequence, she enjoys a highly potent trait of charisma and magnetism. See page 247
9. She constantly seeks change as a human being and as such she enjoys the  condition of fearlessness. See page 250